ESL and "You Know" Phrases

Let’s Talk Wedding in English: Use “You Know” Phrases

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Weddings are hectic to plan and execute. They are, of course, romantic and personal matters as well. You are excited about committing to someone you love for the rest of your life. But there are also practical matters to consider, things like family, who pays for what and who to invite. Attending weddings is another personal experience. We often compare it to what we would like at our own wedding—the ceremony, the vows, the music, the keepsakes and gifts for guests, etc. I remember my cousin’s wedding and it was the complete opposite of what I would want when marrying my beloved. So how do you explain your thoughts on something that is intimate and personal in English?



Begin with “You Know” to Draw on Common Feelings



We are naturally inclined to want to find something in common with one another. Experiences—whether happy, sad or scary—are always better when shared. And with weddings, family and love, it can be a mixed bag of feelings. I mean, you are excited about getting hitched with someone you love. But weddings are hard on nerves and on pocketbooks. Fortunately, these feelings—good or bad—are relatable to most people. And we use “you know” phrases to emphasize this fact and establish common ground.




You know, the hardest thing was deciding who to invite to the wedding.

As you may guess, we just have to have a live band at our wedding.

Like anyone else, we would want our wedding to be a celebration of our love and commitment.



“You know” phrases are dependent clauses, which means that they cannot stand alone on their own. They are used at the beginning to indicate that you expect that the person would agree with what you about to say. They help you to establish rapport.



Other “You Know” Phrases

– As you may know

– You may understand

– I am sure you would agree that




Weddings celebrate two people who love each other and who want to commit to each other for life. There is a lot to take into consideration when planning a wedding. Whether married or not, we can all understand the importance of the event in two people’s lives. For these types of discussions, where personal views, experiences and desires are expressed, it is helpful that we begin with “you know” phrases. When someone says “you know, it can be difficult”, we instinctively feel that we should understand that the speaker is having some sort of difficulty. So try using “you know” expressions to help you with finding common ground. People will tend to be more understanding when you use “you know” to lead into your opinion of something.



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